5Decades ( member #83504) posted at 5:00 PM on Thursday, December 11th, 2025
Asterisk,
Thank you for your reply. I was brokenhearted that I hurt you. I was in tears when I read your response.
We betrayed are so tender. I am sorry I added to that pain. None of us deserve any more pain, we have had enough.
I will continue to post just because of what you said. Thank you so much.
5Decades BW 69 WH 74 Married since 1975
5Decades ( member #83504) posted at 5:02 PM on Thursday, December 11th, 2025
Unhinged,
Yes, The Brady Bunch. I had thought that went by the wayside years ago, but it is in syndication and has an entire new group of followers LOL.
And it is crazy how kids’ language patterns will rub off on us. 6-7…
5Decades BW 69 WH 74 Married since 1975
Asterisk (original poster member #86331) posted at 6:14 PM on Thursday, December 11th, 2025
I was in tears when I read your response.
Dang it, 5Decades,
You now have brought me to tears. But healthy tears. Now it is time to laugh together, for there have already been far too many tears.
Asterisk
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 6:46 PM on Thursday, December 11th, 2025
Aw, man. Do we need a group hug? We need a group hug. I wanna group hug! :p
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 7:04 PM on Thursday, December 11th, 2025
Not the same situation (and I see that yours was cleared up), but I was truly discovered on here by the OW of all people. Of course, she recognized my story because she was in it. Interestingly, she said it made her realize how much pain she had caused me. Take that fwiw. She is a liar and predatory, serial cheater.
I didn't care because I wasn't hiding anything. I had already told everyone in my life who mattered. I wasn't announcing it to the world and everyone I knew. I also wasn't ashamed and worried about people finding out. I didn't do anything to be ashamed of. My H's behavior is not a reflection of me. If anyone asked me, I told the truth.
Me(BW): 1970WH(caveman): 1970Married June, 2000DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EADDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraphStatus: just living my life
Icedover84 ( member #82901) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, December 12th, 2025
This happened to me on Reddit recently after three years in the r/survivinginfidelity subreddit. They called me out by name and said no wonder my wife stepped out on me. I deleted the account. I was so shaken by it because it was supposed to be a safe space. That kind of invasion of privacy should be dealt with harshly.
torso1500 ( new member #83345) posted at 3:05 PM on Saturday, December 13th, 2025
I bring this up in a totally friendly and non-judgmental way, since there have been a couple posts/comments lately on the subject of a private or safe space- this forum and public subreddits are NOT private at all. Both are completely searchable with public search engines such as Google, therefore the content is also being cached by third parties.
I'm not sure if there is a great way to make a 100% safe, private internet space that's also widely accessible...discord server? Still not 100% really, especially if someone is targeting you. I think someone else mentioned this in this thread, but many people are shocked how little information you can disclose that will allow someone to identify you. Especially if you have publicly accessible social media (including Linkedin, which is one of the more overlooked sources of internet re-identification). And if the person targeting you knows you IRL, they may be able to leverage your private social media. If you don't want to be identified here, be really careful about seemingly innocuous clues to your real life!
